Thursday, October 2, 2008

Putting things into perspective.

This post is because I taped Oprah yesterday. It was about the lady who left her 2 year old in the car for 8 hours. For those who didn't see it she was an asst principal at a middle school and it was the first day back for the teachers and her husband who usually takes the girls two daycare and preschool had a dentist appt so he was unable to take the 2 year. Well she was to early to drop her off at the sitters and of course this whole time the little girl is a sleep in the car. She stopped and got donuts. Well she forgot to drop her off and went to school. They showed video tape of her driving to the front doors and unloading her stuff at school. She then got in her car and parked it, not once did she remembered her daughter sleeping in the car. She said that she had a busy day and that she even talked about her daughters with the new teachers and that still did not make her remember she forgot to drop off her daughter. Well at 4 pm one of the teachers walked by the car and saw the little girl. Well you know the end of the story, the little girl passed away.

After I watched last night and I cried of course because I was touched by the story but also had some questions. My first question was did the babysitter not call and ask why they didn't drop the little girl off? I am very fortunate to not have to take my sons to the sitter but if I did everyday and I just didn't show up and didn't call I would think that my sitter would call and make sure that everything was ok. My second question is would I be able to go about my day and even talk about my children and that not jolt my memory of what did or did not happen that morning. I don't know?

So after I watched and they talked about how overwhelmed mothers become. I have been there and looking back I realized that I had put my job (coaching) before everything else. When I was hospitalized to be induced to have Payton I remember having my blackberry next to me and still taking calls from athletes while in labor. After I gave birth to Braxton I was dividing my time between my very sick baby and coaching still. Why would I do this? I look back and wonder how stupid that was. Was I throwing myself into work so I didn't worry about my sick baby? I dont' know? Or was I so overwhelmed with everything that I didn't know when to stop and think about the situation.

As of today I still find myself feeling overwhelmed but I feel that I have a better handle on it. I am not scared to say "I need me time". Do I say it enough, NO, but I say it when I need it the most. So you are probably asking what is the point of my blog entry. Well I am glad you asked. After watching Oprah last night I decided that everyone should step back and re-evaluate their lives and remember what is most important to them. I know I did and my first job is to be a great and loving mother and wife. Putting things into perspective....I feel everyone needs to do this.

Where did it all begin.....

This is a blog about the lives of a non-traditional midwestern family. I am a full time working mother of two beautiful boys and a wife to a stay at home husband. We were married on June 15, 2002 and were blessed with two boys, Payton (4-19-05) and Braxton (2-08-07).